Sex Bucket List for Couples: 130 Fun & Intimate Things to Try in 2026
Every relationship reaches a point when the sex life starts feeling predictable and routine.
It’s more common than you think, and guess what? Completely normal!
As you settle into a routine with your partner, it’s normal for desire to take a dip.
While sexless marriages are not uncommon, and it’s normal for your sex life to become boring, it has its downsides. Research shows that low sexual desire in relationships is a major predictor of low marital satisfaction.
The good news: your sex life doesn’t have to be boring or predictable even if you’ve been together for twenty years!
This is where making a sex bucket list comes in. It’s a fun and easy way to spice up your bedroom life.
What’s a Sex Bucket List?
It’s a shared list of experiences you’d like to explore with your partner emotionally, romantically, and sexually.
Some items on the list will be soft and intimate, while others will be kinkier. There’s no right or wrong way to make your sex bucket list.
The goal is to make it personal to you and your relationship, full of things that excite you.
Why Make a Sex Bucket List?
Don’t think of this as a pressure-filled checklist or “we should be kinkier” assignment. It’s a playful, curiosity-driven way to bring novelty, anticipation, and connection back into your relationship.
Remember how excited and giddy you were at the start? While you can’t recreate the honeymoon phase completely, it’s possible to bring some of those thrills back into your life.
Making a sex bucket list is also a great way to open a conversation about your desires, wants, and fantasies without shame or awkwardness. It’s just the two of you, having fun!
130 Sex Bucket List Ideas for Couples From Soft & Intimate to Bold & Kinky
Below you’ll find 130 ideas for your personal sex bucket list, for every taste.
Soft & Flirty Bucket List Ideas
This category is all about emotional foreplay.
Not everything intimate has to lead to sex.
This is particularly true in busy seasons of life where energy’s limited but connection still matters.
These ideas focus on closeness, affection, and anticipation rather than performance or outcome.
Think of this as the foundation of desire: feeling seen, chosen, and emotionally safe. For many couples (especially parents), this is where intimacy actually begins again.
If you’re feeling disconnected, touched out, or simply craving more tenderness, start here:
Ask your partner 130 intimacy questions.
Send them a flirty text out of the blue.
Take foreplay out of the bedroom.
Give them a sensual massage.
Invite them on a romantic date… at home.
Cook a new dish together.
Play a game of “no touching.”
Make out all night long.
Explore sensation play.
Find new ways to tease them.
Maintain eye contact while touching.
Compliment their body.
Wash each other in the shower.
Slow dance in the living room.
Sleep naked together.
Recreate your first date.
Share what first attracted you to them.
Whisper what you want to do to them later.
Leave a flirty voice note.
Read love letters (or texts) you’ve sent each other.
Spend an evening touching above the waist only.
Feed each other dessert.
Take a bath together.
Hold hands during a movie.
Undress each other slowly.
Sit on their lap without grinding.
Watch the sunset together.
Plan a future sexy getaway together.
Cuddle for hours.
Do something nice without them having to ask.
Tell them you love them, intentionally.
Find a way to make them feel seen.
Find out what your Erotic Personas are.
Curious & Playful Sex Bucket List Ideas
This category is about curiosity without pressure.
You’re not diving into intensity. You’re exploring ideas, fantasies, and novelty in a way that feels light, fun, and low-stakes.
Talking, imagining, laughing, and teasing are just as valuable as doing.
These ideas are meant to break routine and spark conversation, not push boundaries.
You don’t have to act on everything you discuss. Sometimes curiosity alone is what reignites desire.
If sex has started to feel predictable or scripted, this is where playfulness comes back in:
Make a “Yes/No/Maybe” list.
Share a fantasy with them.
Create a Sex Menu together.
Play a card game.
Try a new sex position.
Play strip poker.
Spell the alphabet with your tongue on their most intimate places.
Read erotica together.
Make a sex playlist together.
Make a sex painting together.
Use body-safe edible paint on their body.
Lick whipped cream off them.
Flirt with them all day long.
Leave sexy notes for them to find.
Worship their body.
Explore new erogenous zones.
Try pleasure mapping.
Undress them with your teeth.
Touch each other without kissing.
Try mutual teasing without orgasm.
Kiss them without touching them.
Pretend to be strangers at a bar.
Try not having sex for a week on purpose.
Make a list of places you want to have sex.
Play sexy hide-and-seek (the person who hides leaves a trail of clothes for the seeker as clues).
Use a blindfold on them.
Buy a new sex toy together.
Play with sex dice.
Have sex without penetration.
Build a pillow fort and hook up in it.
Go on a road trip and tease each other during the drive.
Adventurous & Intimate Sex Bucket List Ideas
This is where exploration becomes clearly physical and deeply intimate.
These ideas involve trying new sexual experiences, increasing vulnerability, and being more present in your bodies without crossing into taboo or kink.
The focus is mutual pleasure, trust, and emotional connection.
This category is ideal for couples who feel secure in their relationship and want to stretch their comfort zone gently, without pressure to perform or escalate further:
Have sex in the car.
Use a clit toy during doggy style.
Pick out lingerie for your partner.
Try the Lotus (Yab-Yum) sex position.
Strip for them.
Try 69.
Take your partner for a ride (cowgirl style).
Do it on top of a washer or dryer.
Have sex in the shower.
Give them a lingam massage.
Take sexy pics.
Masturbate in front of each other.
Watch them masturbate without touching them or yourself.
Give ice temperature play a try.
Wear nipple clamps.
Do it in front of the mirror.
Try an arousal gel on intimate areas.
Talk dirty to them.
Have phone sex.
Use flavored lube.
Give them a happy ending massage.
Give them a yoni massage.
Organize a sexy pic scavenger hunt.
Have slow sex.
Get a hotel room and have loud, boisterous sex.
Use a ball gag.
Find the P-spot.
Have sex with a vibrating C-ring on.
Do naked yoga together.
Experiment with dry humping.
Give oral enhancers a go.
Wake them with sex.
Try to climax at the same time.
Bold & Kinky Sex Bucket Ideas
This category explores edge, power, and fantasy.
These ideas are intentionally bolder and not meant for everyone, and that’s the point.
Reading or talking about some of these ideas can be just as meaningful as trying them, and consent and communication always come first.
Nothing here is required.
There’s no expectation to “work your way up” or prove anything.
Desire is personal, and fantasy doesn’t have to become reality to be valid.
If you’re curious about kink, taboo themes, or power dynamics, this is a safe place to explore that curiosity together:
Engage in powerplay.
Create a BDSM contract.
Do house chores while trying to turn each other on.
Have bondage sex.
Learn shibari.
Try Consensual Non Consent (CNC).
Pretend to be someone else for the night.
Sit on their face.
Drip wax on their skin.
Use a remote-controlled toy… in public.
Leave your panties at home.
Go to the restroom and take a sexy pic.
Masturbate on the plane and tell them about it.
Give them road head.
Explore foot play.
Wear a strap-on.
Try anal play.
Explore double penetration.
Have boob sex (use the breasts to stimulate the penis).
Film yourself having sex.
Film yourself masturbating.
Try impact play.
Try clit clamps.
Edge them into oblivion.
Use a CBD lube.
Have them cum on you (or fill you up).
Write a sexy story for your partner.
Indulge in sensory deprivation.
Try rimming.
Go to a sex party.
Get a sex swing.
Go down on them while they’re on a call.
How To Use a Sex Bucket List
To be clear: just because we made a list with 130+ items on it doesn’t mean you have to try them all! But then again, maybe you’ll try even more.
Some things may be a hard YES.
Some will be a hard NO.
While some may make you pause and think, “Hmmm, maybe?”
Not everything will be your cup of tea, and some things may be harder to accomplish than others during certain seasons of life (right after having kids, working hard for promotion, etc.).
So, pick and choose what works for you and your relationship right now. Don’t pressure yourself into ticking every box. This is supposed to be fun!
Remember: the goal is connection, not completion.
Always have a conversation with your partner prior to trying something new out of your comfort zone to ensure both of you are on board and having fun.
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