75 Sexy Text Ideas That Will Blow Your Partner’s Mind
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Let’s be honest—parenting is a vibe.
Not in the steamy, candlelit dinner with your partner kind of way (though those sparse moments are precious). We’re talking about spit-up stains, school drop-offs, and trying to find time for your partner somewhere in between snack duty and getting at least six hours of sleep.
That’s where sexy texts can come in handy.
A quick, playful, and naughty message that cuts through the chaos and says, “Hey, I see you. I still want you.”
Sexting is the secret to staying connected (and staying turned on).
Let’s make your partner blush with these 75 spicy text message ideas.
What Is Sexting?
Sexting is the art of sending erotic, flirty, or playful messages with hidden (or not so hidden) meaning to your partner over text, DMs, or other apps.
You can call it a modern language that blends words and your imagination to spark desire through distance—you don’t need to be in the same room for it to work.
Think of it as foreplay.
The best thing about sexting is that there are no rules; you get to send your partner whatever sexy texts you want. It’s all about sharing desires in a way that’s exciting, consensual, and a little wicked (if you like).
“It’s the cheeky ‘I want you dripping and on your knees tonight’ while you’re in a meeting. It’s sending a photo that makes them squirm at their desk. It builds arousal, tension, anticipation—and by the time you’re face to face, you’re already halfway undressed,” says American Board Certified Sexologist and Certified Authentic Tantra® Practitioner Tugce Balik.
Why Is Sending Sext Messages Hot?
There are so many reasons why sending a sext to your partner is the best. A single well-timed sex message can:
Build anticipation throughout the day
Help you find your way to each other after a dry spell (sexless marriage is a thing after all)
Remind your partner you still desire them, wildly
Add novelty to routine and help keep things exciting for years (and decades)
Also, some research suggests that some couples who engage in sexting report higher sexual satisfaction in their relationships, which may also, in turn, boost couples’ overall relationship satisfaction.
How To Sext: Tips for Crafting Sexy Texts
Are you ready to send your first sext to your partner? Here are a few useful tips to keep in mind as you draft it:
Start Slow
You don’t have to dive into full-blown explicit fantasies on the first message. A teasing line or a simple compliment can go a long way. Sexting is most effective when you start slow and ease into it. Build the tension.
Remember Consent
Consent is key. Just because you’re in a relationship doesn’t mean your partner wants to engage in sexting.
So, check in with them before you start. Ask them what they think. Talk about the things that are hot and off-limits things.
For sexting to be a good time, everyone has to be on board!
Time It Well
Timing is everything. Don’t drop a spicy line in the middle of an argument when you’re not speaking or when your kiddo has the stomach flu.
Instead, aim for a slow morning tease or “can’t wait to get home to you” on your way back from errands.
Tap Into Your Desires
Don’t overthink it—instead of worrying about what sounds hot, start by sharing a simple fantasy. Something you find sexy. Something you want to try.
Turn your cravings into a sensual message. That’s authentic and sexy. And a great way to communicate your desires.
Practice Makes It Perfect
Believe it or not, sexting is a skill. And literally anyone can master it with enough practice!
Sure, the first time may be awkward. You may say too much or too little.
That’s okay!
Try again. Next time it will be better. Use emojis, voice notes, and even photos (if that’s your thing).
Get playful. Get creative.
Remember: there are no rules.
75 Sexy Text Messages To Send Your Partner
Now you have the tools to help you craft irresistible sexy texts.
But if you need something to spark inspiration, we have a list of sext messages for every occasion!
Take what you like, leave what you don’t, tweak and make it your own.
Sexy Texts for a New Relationship
Are you in a fresh relationship, want to send them a sexy text, but don’t want to come off as too sex-forward? Try sending them one of these:
I keep replaying our last kiss in my head…
You in that shirt? Total distraction.
What would you do if I whispered everything I’m thinking right now?
I can’t stop smiling when I think about last night.
You’re dangerously addictive, you know that?
I’m not wearing anything you wouldn’t like…
You’ve been on my mind all day—in all the best ways.
Want to know what I dreamed about last night?
My hands miss you.
Next time I see you, I’m not keeping my hands to myself.
I dare you to tell me what you’re thinking about me right now.
I’ve got a surprise for you… I think it’s something you’ll love.
I want to hear you say my name the way you did last time.
If I sent you a pic right now, would you be able to concentrate for the rest of the day?
I've been practicing some sensual massage techniques. Care to be my willing volunteer? I promise to be gentle...
Sexy Texts To Spice Up a Long-Term Relationship
Been in a long-term relationship, and want a new way to spice up the bedroom? Send your partner one of these naughty texts and see what happens:
I need you. So bad. Right now.
You still give me butterflies. And dirty thoughts.
You make me feel like I’m 22 and wildly in love—but with better moves.
Let’s try something new tonight… I’ve got ideas.
I miss your lips on my [insert a body part].
Come home early. I’ve got a plan.
You + me + locked door = tonight’s agenda.
Just sent the kids to grandma’s. You know what that means.
Thinking about the way you looked at me last night… more, please.
Still can’t get over what you whispered to me. Say it again?
I found a new toy I want us to try.
You still make me melt, you know that?
Let’s pretend it’s our first time again tonight.
Want to skip dinner and head straight to dessert? You’re on the menu.
Your hands. My body. That playlist you made me for our last anniversary. Tonight.
Sexy Texts To Make Them Think of You All Day
Want to surprise your partner with a cheeky message that will make their head spin and keep them thinking about you all.day.long? We’ve got just the thing:
You looked so good this morning, it made me think of all the things I will do to you once you’re back.
Counting down the minutes until I can touch you again.
Can’t focus. All I can think about is you.
Wanna hear the fantasy I can’t stop thinking about?
I left you a little surprise in my top drawer.
I’m wearing your favorite thing today. Guess what it is?
Imagine me whispering this in your ear instead…
Every time my phone buzzes, I hope it’s you.
Your voice is stuck in my head in all the right ways.
Thinking about the way you taste.
I love how you make me feel without even being here.
Is it hot in here, or is it just me thinking about you?
You. Me. Shower. Tonight.
I’ve been distracted all day. Your fault.
Don’t make plans tonight. I’ve got something better.
Sexy Texts To Send To Make Their Toes Curl
Feeling kinky tonight? Want to spark your partner’s desire for a passionate night of exploration? Send them one of these:
What would you do if I were tied to the bed waiting for you?
Thinking about your hands pinning mine down…
Tonight, I want to be your favorite toy.
You like it rough? Or do you want me begging?
Just say the word, I’ll be on my knees when you walk in.
I’m dripping just thinking about your tongue between my thighs.
I want you to wear that new set of lingerie I got you tonight. Wait for my further orders.
I want to hear you moan my name over and over.
Imagine me, blindfolded, waiting for your next move.
Command me tonight.
I dreamt you made me come three times. Want to beat that?
Use me. Please.
I can still taste you from last night. I need more.
Blindfold me. Tie my hands behind my back. Spank me. Make me yours.
I want you moaning in my ear tonight while you cum around my cock. Again, and again.
Sexy Texts for Long-Distance Relationships
In a long-distance relationship? More reasons to sext! Send your partner one of these to make them think of you, even miles away:
Wish I could crawl into bed with you right about now.
Let’s FaceTime tonight… no clothes required.
Tell me what you’d do to me if you were here.
I’m replaying our last night together like a favorite movie.
Your hoodie still smells like you. Torture.
Send me something to dream about tonight?
What are you wearing… under that blanket?
The next time I see you, we’re not leaving the bedroom for hours.
I miss the sound you make when I touch you just right.
You’ve been living in my head, rent-free and shirtless.
Even your texts turn me on.
Let’s trade voice notes. Tell me your dirtiest thought.
You + me + hotel room. Manifesting.
I’m sleeping with your picture tonight.
The distance sucks. But sexting you? Kind of hot.
Want more dirty talk ideas?
Check out our expert guide with 30+ hot dirty talk phrases that will get your partner hot and bothered.
Sexting Mistakes To Avoid
Even the hottest sext messages sent with the purest intentions can backfire if you’re not careful. Here’s what not to do when you’re sexting your partner, especially the first time:
Don’t Pressure Your Partner Into Sexting
Sexting only works when both of you are in the mood. Don’t fire off sexy messages when they’re stressed, moody, or busy and don’t want to engage in it.
If your partner’s not feeling it, respect that.
Here’s how to make sure you don’t pressure them.
Send a tame warm-up sext and see how they react.
Did they get back to you in the same mood? Green light. Ignored your message or changed the topic? Red light.
Even a simple “Want to play a little?” can go a long way.
Forgetting Consent
Consent isn’t just reserved for physical intimacy. It should be ongoing—even in text. Check in with your partner beforehand and set boundaries and rules.
Stay within those boundaries and be respectful.
Getting Too Explicit Too Fast
Would you jump into penetrative sex right off the bat, no foreplay involved? We hope not!
Warming up is the key in the bedroom and outside of it. Jumping into graphic stuff out of nowhere can be jarring for your partner.
Ease them into it. Warm them up.
A slow tease will hit harder than going from zero to XXX.
Time To Turn Up the Heat
Flirty, romantic, spicy, or downright filthy—sex texts are a fun way to connect with your partner, spark your imagination for new things to explore, and keep the passion alive no matter how full your calendar (or your laundry basket) is.
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