17 Ways to Take Shower Sex from Great to Thrilling
Shower sex, you either love it or hate it.
But here’s the thing—shower sex doesn’t have to be boring or awkward. With the right setup, a few clever tricks, and a splash (pun intended) of confidence, it can be a wet and wild way to spice things up in the bedroom (err bathroom…).
Whether you’re a shower sex lover or you’re on the fence, this shower sex guide will give you all the tips, tricks, and tools to take a mediocre experience to an unforgettable one.
Why Shower Sex?
It’s not just the thrill of being naked under running water that makes shower sex appealing. It’s an act that hits the spot between practical and playful—and with a little effort, it can serve as a new experience every single time you step into your shower.
Not convinced yet? Here are four reasons to engage in shower sex:
Perfect intimacy: You’re skin-to-skin, with nowhere to be but in the moment. The warmth, the water, the shared space, and intimate eye gazing create a sensual cocoon you can lose yourself in with your favorite person.
Easy clean-up: Fluids? Lube? Period blood? Paints? It all washes away in seconds, leaving no traces of mess. That’s why shower sex is perfect for period sex and bringing messy fantasies to life.
Super versatile: Want to tease your partner into oblivion? Kick off a long night of passionate lovemaking? Wash away the traces of messy sex you just had and indulge in intimate aftercare? Shower sex fits all moods—foreplay, main course, and aftercare.
Novelty made easy: Even if you’ve been together forever, and showered in the past numerous times, the next time you step into the shower can be different than the last, which gives you an easy way to bring in fresh air into your relationship and sex life.
Shower Sex Safety
Let’s be real: bathroom floors are slippery, ceramic walls are unforgiving (and cold), and the last thing you want is an aching knee because you accidentally drove your leg into the hard wall mid-thrust.
Even 44% of people admit to having been hurt during a shower sex session!
Before you hop into your shower for a steamy session, set yourself up for sexy success with these safety essentials:
Non-slip bath mat: The holy grail of safe shower sex. Nobody is sexy slipping and sliding while trying to remain upright, so consider investing in one you can keep on hand at all times.
Grab bars: installing these in your shower can be awesome for mobility and experimenting with different shower sex positions without compromising on comfort or safety.
Water check: We all prefer different shower temperatures, that’s just the reality. While you may love scalding temperature, your partner might prefer much cooler water, so always check that the temperature is right for both of you, so it doesn’t distract you from the moment.
Always use lube: While you may think adding more wetness into the mix would result in more lubrication, water washes away natural lubrication. So, invest in shower-friendly lube you keep on hand to ensure you stay slick under the spray.
How to Have Shower Sex: 17 Expert Tips for an Unforgettable Experience
While we love a quicky, think of shower sex less like a race and more like a sensual, steamy ritual. A way for you to connect with your partner when you have a moment for just the two of you.
These seventeen expert-backed tips will take you beyond the basic shower sex and allow you to create a next-level experience:
Start with a Sensual Massage
Before you even head to the shower, start with a sensual massage. Let your hands glide over your partner’s slick, warm skin. Rub their shoulders, massage their back, and help get the tension from the day out.
Once you’re both relaxed and slick with massage oil, head into the shower to wash it all off and indulge in pleasure together.
It’s the perfect way to slow down, sync your energy, and build anticipation.
Set the Atmosphere
Out of date night at home ideas? We got you! Turn your shower into a sensual spa for one night.
Dim the bathroom lights, bring in scented candles to light up the place, or use soft sunset LED lights instead.
Turn on your favorite sensual playlist in the background.
If scented candles are not your thing, use essential oils like eucalyptus or ylang ylang instead.
Relax and unwind right in the comfort of your home.
Schedule It (Yes, Really)
Spontaneity is hot, sure. But scheduled sex is even hotter. You know why? Because scheduled sex actually happens.
When you both know it’s going to happen later, the anticipation can build all day long.
Send each other flirty texts to drive each other wild until the moment you finally meet.
Even a simple “Hope you’re ready to get soaked tonight…” can go a long way. Try it!
Make Out First
Make outs are not only for horny teenagers! It can be a phenomenal way to connect and tease each other until you simply can’t think straight.
Sexologist Vanessa Marin makes out with her husband before going to bed every night, even if it doesn’t lead to sex, because it’s connective and intimate.
Try it in the shower—slow kisses, wet tongues, teasing nibbles under the spray…
Undress Each Other
Make shower sex into a connective ritual. Slowly, peel off clothes one piece at a time, kissing every newly exposed inch.
Do it with intention and care, as if you were worshiping your partner. It can be a phenomenal way to show your partner appreciation and build anticipation before you even get wet.
Take Charge
If you’re curious to play around with power dynamics, the shower is the perfect place to experiment.
Take charge of your shower play experience. Undress your partner, pin their wrists, guide their hands, or whisper instructions into their ear. Wash them, and then please them, or order them to please you.
Wash Each Other
If taking charge is not your thing, it’s OK—shower play is perfect for mutual pleasure. Instead of having a shower separately, wash each other.
Use your hands or a soft loofah to scrub every part of your partner’s body—especially the places they’re usually show about. Be gentle and loving.
After that, let them take charge and do the same to you.
Washing each other is tender, intimate, and deeply arousing.
Map Erogenous Zones
Use the opportunity of you both being naked to explore each other’s erogenous zones. Start with the neck, inner thighs, nipple, and lower back, before moving onto less-known areas such as behind the knees or insides of your ankles.
See what feels good, communicate with your partner, use fingers or your mouth, and have fun!
When everything is wet and warm, the skin is extra sensitive.
Lube It Up!
Water is not lube. It will easily wash off any natural lubrication.
Friction during sex can cause micro tears and make things super uncomfortable and potentially painful, which can kill the mood real quick.
To avoid that, bring a bottle of shower-friendly lube: we recommend going with a silicone-based one so it keeps the things slippery under the spray for as long as you desire.
Bring Your Favorite Sex Toy
Have a waterproof sex toy? Well, bring it with you to the shower next time! Vibrating bullets, wand massagers, suction toys, and even dildos can be a great way to spice things up and add extra sensations.
Hold the vibes between bodies while grinding on each other, use a toy on your partner, or wear a silicone C-ring during penetrative sex.
Not sure which sex toy is right for you? Check out our best sex toys for women guide!
Try Mutual Masturbation
Face each other, and watch each other. It’s raw, vulnerable, and intensely erotic.
Sprinkle in dirty talk and eye contact to take things to the next level. Before you know it, you both will be undone without even touching.
Use the Shower Head
A detachable shower head with adjustable water settings can be a game changer, especially for clitoral stimulation.
Test the settings to find one that feels the best, make sure the temperature is right, and aim it between your partner’s thighs while they lean back and enjoy being pleasured.
If you love shower head pleasure, consider investing in one designed for sex–we love Womanizer’s Wave.
Put on a Show
Let your partner watch you undress, and then wash yourself. Make it a performance of a lifetime. Take your time. Turn on some sensual background music. Keep their gaze.
Tilt your head back, run your hands down your body. Own the moment.
Confidence is hotter than any pose! Your partner will love it.
Lock Eyes
Nothing is hotter than eye contact. So simple yet so underrated!
Holding eye contact while you pleasure each other, or during penetrative sex when you’re face-to-face, adds emotional depth, tension, and a delicious feeling of being seen.
Besides, who doesn’t love the sight of their partner lost in the throes of passion?
Edge a Little
Edging is the art of bringing yourself or a partner close to an orgasm without allowing it to happen. It can heighten the sensations and make orgasms more powerful.
Why not try it next time you have a shower sex?
Bring your partner close to the edge, and then back off. Do it again. And again.
Do it with your mouth once, and your fingers the second time. Switch it up to enhance the experience.
When it’s finally time to let go, it’ll feel like fireworks.
Shave Them
Yeah, you’ve read that right!
Remember that iconic episode of Sex and the City where Samantha gets with the personal trainer who shaves her clean down there? That can be intimate, sexy, and connective.
It’s not about the shaving itself, but rather the act of kindness and appreciation for your partner’s body. Don’t knock it before you try it!
Best Shower Sex Positions (That Won’t Break Your Back)
It’s time to talk logistics. Not all sex positions will work in the shower, so be creative! These sex positions should work with most showers and help you keep things balanced, close, and deeply connected:
Standing Doggy Style: One partner bends forward, hands braced against the wall or resting on the ledge. The other partner enters from behind. Use walls for support and bend your knees slightly to find the best angle.
Face-to-Face Stand and Grind: Wrap your arms around each other. One partner lifts the leg if you have a built-in ledge or a stool on hand. Grind against each other or go for penetrative sex.
Letter A: One partner stands with their legs wide and bends down until they reach the floor with their hands. The other partner stands behind and penetrates. If you can’t reach the floor with your hands, use a bench or lean against the wall. If you have the strength, the penetrative partner can lift the receiving partner by the hips and have the legs wrapped around their torso.
Experiment with different variations to find what works for you!
Get Wet, Get Wild
Shower sex can be an intimate, connective experience that helps you add a dash of novelty into your relationship or offer a moment of peace and quiet when you can focus on the two of you only.
With the right mix of planning and passion, you can turn a simple shower into a steamy ritual that’s hot every time.
So, light the candles. Bring the lube. And don’t forget the non-slip mat!
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