Nicholas Velotta

“When you were dating, you planned for sex—dressed for it, longed for it. That anticipation was the spark. Scheduled sex isn’t a chore. It’s a return to that fire. In a sense, the best sex is scheduled sex. Why? Because it actually happens.”

Nicholas is a relationship researcher and sexologist focused on how intimacy, gender, and sexuality shape our everyday lives. His superpower? Turning complex intimacy research into warm, inclusive conversations you actually want to have. As a PhD student at the University of Washington and former assistant to Arya’s advisor, Dr. Pepper Schwartz (Married at First Sight, The Normal Bar), he learned how breaking the routine is the secret for a passionate love life. At Arya, he makes research feel human, so you can better understand yourself and your partner.