What is Squirting? 7 Expert Tips On How to Squirt
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Ah, squirting—the ultimate mix of curiosity, excitement, and WTF actually is it?
Maybe you’ve experienced it. Maybe you’ve tried and felt so close, but not quite. Or maybe you’ve heard the hype and thought, “Okay, but… is it pee?” (We’ll get to that.)
Squirting is one of those hot topics that gets a lot of attention but very little clear, pressure-free guidance. So, let’s break it down without the fluff, shame, or “how-to” stress. Whether you’re curious, cautious, or coming back for round two, this one’s for you.
What is Squirting?
Let’s get anatomical for a second—squirting is the release of fluid from the paraurethral glands (also called Skene’s glands) during sexual arousal or orgasm. These glands are located around the urethra and are sometimes called the "female prostate."
The fluid itself is usually clear or slightly milky and can feel like a gush, a drip, or something in between. And no—it’s not just pee (but we’ll bust that myth in a second).
Bottom line? Squirting is a real, valid, and super hot physiological response to intense pleasure, not a party trick or porn trope.
Is Squirting Pee?
Let’s get this out of the way: no, squirting isn’t the same as peeing.
Yes, the fluid can contain trace amounts of urine because of where it comes from (near the bladder and urethra), but that doesn’t mean it is urine. It’s like saying sweat is pee just because both come out of your body—doesn’t quite add up, right?
The science is still evolving, but ancient pleasure traditions and modern research agree: squirting is a distinct, pleasure-driven experience. So let’s stop shaming bodies for doing what they were built to do.
What Does Squirting Feel Like?
Squirting feels different for everyone. For some, it’s a release—a physical, emotional, or energetic exhale that builds to a sudden gush. For others, it’s a warm rush or subtle leak that feels intensely satisfying without necessarily being orgasmic.
Many people describe a feeling of “needing to pee” right before it happens. That’s the body’s cue that the Skene’s glands are filling up. The trick? Don’t clench. Don’t stop. Breathe into the sensation and try to feel into it.
Can All Women Squirt?
Let’s reframe this: Can all vulva-owners squirt? Yes.Technically. The anatomy is there. The capacity exists. But that doesn’t mean everyone will squirt—and that’s okay.
Some people naturally squirt with ease, while others might need a specific type of stimulation, emotional safety, or simply time to get there. And for some, it may never happen—and that doesn’t make their pleasure any less valid or real.
Squirting isn’t a badge of honor. It’s not the final boss of sex. It’s just one of many ways the body expresses pleasure.
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How to Squirt: Tips for Unlocking the Gush
Okay, let’s get into the juicy part: how to make squirting happen, without turning it into a pressure-filled performance.
1. G-Spot Stimulation is Key
The G-spot (or more accurately, the urethral sponge) is your squirt zone. It’s a spongy, ridged area located on the front wall of the vagina, about 1–2 inches in.
Use a firm, “come here” motion with your fingers (or a curved toy) to stimulate this area. You’re looking for a feeling of fullness and swelling—not friction. Think slow and rhythmic rather than fast and frantic. My advice is to get your body aroused before even going into G-spot stimulation. You should be fully engorged as this will create more sensation & pleasure in your body.
2. Relax Your Body, Especially Your Pelvis
You can’t squirt if you’re clenching your pelvic floor like a stress ball. Squirting happens when the body feels safe and open enough to release.
Try breathwork, sensual touch, or a warm bath to relax beforehand. Breathe into your belly and exhale slowly during stimulation. Let your whole body melt, not just your genitals.
Also, if you’re worried about the ‘mess’ (which is reported as one of the major blockages when it comes to squirting), use a splash towel to assure yourself that you’re good & can mentally let go.
3. Build Deep Arousal First
Squirting usually doesn’t happen in a cold start. Build heat slowly. Explore other erogenous zones. Use lube—lots of it. Kiss, tease, breathe. Let desire build until your body feels like it needs to release.
Turn yourself all the way on before diving into targeted G-spot play. Trust me, the results are worth it.
4. Play With Pressure, Rhythm & Angle
Some people squirt from slow, deep strokes. Others need fast, repetitive pressure. Try pulsing motions, circling your fingers, or pressing steadily into the G-spot while curling upward.
Use feedback from your body: Is something swelling? Are you getting that “full bladder” feeling? That’s your green light.
5. Let It Happen (Yes, Even If It Feels Like Pee)
That pee sensation? It’s a sign you’re close. Instead of stopping or running to the bathroom, breathe through it. Lay down a towel and surrender. Let your body do its thing.
And if nothing happens? That’s okay too. You’re still deep in pleasure. That’s the whole point.
Helping Your Partner Squirt: A Quick Guide
If you’re on the giving end and want to help your partner squirt, here’s how to show up like a pro:
1. Prioritize Safety and Trust
Squirting is vulnerable. It involves full-body release and sometimes big emotions. Make sure your partner feels emotionally held, seen, and safe to let go—no pressure, no performance.
Tell them: “No expectations. Just pleasure.”
2. Follow Their Pleasure, Not the Goal
Check in with your partner. Ask what feels good. Watch their body cues—shallow breaths, moans, pelvic movements. Adjust your rhythm and pressure based on their responses.
Stay connected, present, and attuned. This isn’t just a technique; it’s a co-created experience.
Busting the Biggest Myths About Squirting
Let’s shut these down once and for all:
Myth #1: “Only Some People Can Do It”
False. If you’ve got a vulva, you’ve got the anatomy. What varies is comfort, technique, and arousal—not ability.
Myth #2: “Squirting Is the Same as Orgasm”
Not always. You can squirt without orgasming. You can orgasm without squirting. They often go together, but they’re not mutually required. Both are valid and sexy in their own right.
Myth #3: “If You Don’t Squirt, You’re Missing Out”
Nope. Squirting is one flavor of pleasure. Not everyone’s into spicy. Some prefer sweet. The best sex is the kind that feels good to you, not the kind that checks off a list of “accomplishments.”
Take It Easy, No Pressure
Squirting is messy. Hot. Surprising. Emotional. Sometimes elusive. It can be frustrating. And never the goal.
Whether it happens or not, what matters is how deeply you’re connected to your pleasure, your body, and your partner. There’s no trophy for squirting—only the reward of deeper embodiment, exploration, and play.
So get curious. Take your time. And remember: your pleasure, your body, your rules.
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This blog post for Arya was written by Tugce Balik, Board-Certified Sexologist & Tibetan Tantra Practitioner
By combining Western Science with Eastern Traditions, I teach trauma-informed, lineage-based practices to heal sexual trauma, awaken pleasure, improve your relationships, and restore balance in your body, mind, and spirit.
As a certified practitioner, I use Authentic Tantra® methods rooted in Tibetan 5 Elements Tantra from the Shangpa Kagyu Tradition. I combine these practices with leading Western science to bring you a blend of both worlds for your highest, most beneficial good.
Pleasure is your birthright, and your body holds all the answers you desire—I just help you get there.
Oh, I also write smut. ;) check me out @tugcebalikphd
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